This was so well-expressed. I know that feeling oh, so well. One thing I've learned, and I think you're learning, is that perfection is unattainable. We as humans are intrinsically flawed, imperfect and messy. We need to embrace those flaws along with everything else. Perfectionism is a trap we use to sabotage ourselves. Should we strive to better ourselves? Absolutely! Should we strive to change and grow? Yes! All we need to do today is try to be/do a little bit better than we did yesterday. As they say in rooms of meetings I've attended, it's "Progress, not perfection" that we should try for. I think you're progressing, don't you? Love , Virg
He said it best! Thank you Mr. Beach! I was given some advice this week to try and describe emotions via writing without using the actual labels to “name them” rather help readers FEEL them. You. Do. A. Supreme. Job. At. Exactly. That.
Thank you for walking me through the pain, mirroring the experience I so often feel, and telling me I’m not alone in my sometimes Emo eras. 😅❤️🔥🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
This piece really got me thinking about perfection not as an aspiration, but as a subtle form of self-erasure. When we chase perfection, we’re often trying to fit ourselves into a pre-existing mold, a societal or personal ideal that isn't truly our own. It’s a process of chipping away at our eccentricities, our spontaneous reactions, our very humanness, until we're a smoother, less textured version of ourselves. But perhaps our truest strength, our most profound beauty, lies not in the polished surface, but in the unique grains and knots of our imperfect wood.
!!!!! All of this. 🥹 I never want to polish away my unique grains and knots of my imperfect wood. May we celebrate our texture and all the unique beauty it brings with it! ♥️
LOL, you're getting there. A wise old Bear once said. "Don't try to be perfect, just be...
Be who you are but be kind, loving, forgiving to those around you and to yourself and follow that which gives you your highest excitement with no expectations of the outcome. I see you are doing it, stay with the process. It's getting better all the time.
This kind of stunned me, and I’m not sure how to comment, or even if it’s warranted. I’d say just be the best Megan you can be, fairly often.
I don’t try to be perfect, myself. Anything I do, however, I at least start out trying to make it perfect. It’s the compounding of errors on a project that I hate. Think of fitting boards together. If *this* one is just a tiny bit off, and then the next one is just another tiny bit off, and the next one, and the next one, it doesn’t take long for the entire project to come out like shit. And then I kick my own ass for it not being like the perfect image that I started with in my head.
But me, personally? I *never* try that hard to be perfect in anything. Because I know I’m not and never will be.
My question is, is there a difference between trying to make the project perfect and trying to make myself perfect? Are they the same thing?
I guess all I try to do is be “better” today than I was yesterday - as determined by *my own* scale, and NOT anyone else’s.
(the nice thing is, since it’s *my* scale, and nobody knows what either that or the daily goal are, nobody can rip me for not being better today - a “get out of jail free” card.)
So I hope that you're saving these. I believe you should look at putting out a book of poetry. I think you have a knack for it and could find a hell of an audience with your raw views and expression.
This was so well-expressed. I know that feeling oh, so well. One thing I've learned, and I think you're learning, is that perfection is unattainable. We as humans are intrinsically flawed, imperfect and messy. We need to embrace those flaws along with everything else. Perfectionism is a trap we use to sabotage ourselves. Should we strive to better ourselves? Absolutely! Should we strive to change and grow? Yes! All we need to do today is try to be/do a little bit better than we did yesterday. As they say in rooms of meetings I've attended, it's "Progress, not perfection" that we should try for. I think you're progressing, don't you? Love , Virg
♥️♥️♥️ thank you, perfection is a myth that will keep all those who seek it in a personal hell forever. Progress, not perfection…. YES 🥹🙏🥰
You got words... deep words... therapeutic words... beautifully haunting words... keep it up my friend.
Thank you so much for this wonderful feedback, friend! 🥹🙏
He said it best! Thank you Mr. Beach! I was given some advice this week to try and describe emotions via writing without using the actual labels to “name them” rather help readers FEEL them. You. Do. A. Supreme. Job. At. Exactly. That.
Thank you for walking me through the pain, mirroring the experience I so often feel, and telling me I’m not alone in my sometimes Emo eras. 😅❤️🔥🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
This is such incredibly high praise… to make others FEEL… ugh, I’m just so happy my words can help do that. 🥹🥹🥹 Thank you for sharing this miss k!! 🙏🥰
“Here’s to letting out the screams that have been begging to come out. 🙏 I’m terrified to do so, and yet… I know I must. Come what may. 🖤”
Bravo you gorge human 💖
Thank you so much friend!!! 🥹🔥🙏🥰
This piece really got me thinking about perfection not as an aspiration, but as a subtle form of self-erasure. When we chase perfection, we’re often trying to fit ourselves into a pre-existing mold, a societal or personal ideal that isn't truly our own. It’s a process of chipping away at our eccentricities, our spontaneous reactions, our very humanness, until we're a smoother, less textured version of ourselves. But perhaps our truest strength, our most profound beauty, lies not in the polished surface, but in the unique grains and knots of our imperfect wood.
Thank you for making me think. 🩵
!!!!! All of this. 🥹 I never want to polish away my unique grains and knots of my imperfect wood. May we celebrate our texture and all the unique beauty it brings with it! ♥️
Megan, I am sorry you had to be perfect. It’s deeply painful and soul destroying to hide who we are to win the love and affection of others.
You are doing good work girl and we are with you on the journey.
…Deeply painful and soul destroying to hide who you are… nailed that feeling perfectly. 💔
thank you so much for your supportive and kind words!!! 🙏
LOL, you're getting there. A wise old Bear once said. "Don't try to be perfect, just be...
Be who you are but be kind, loving, forgiving to those around you and to yourself and follow that which gives you your highest excitement with no expectations of the outcome. I see you are doing it, stay with the process. It's getting better all the time.
Just be… YES! 🙏♥️ Thank you for these beautiful reminders! 🙏
And yet...we like each other best when we see each other's imperfections...
Sooooo true!!!!! The “acceptance” we crave can only truly come from letting ourselves be seen as we truly are, rough edges and all. 🙏♥️
This kind of stunned me, and I’m not sure how to comment, or even if it’s warranted. I’d say just be the best Megan you can be, fairly often.
I don’t try to be perfect, myself. Anything I do, however, I at least start out trying to make it perfect. It’s the compounding of errors on a project that I hate. Think of fitting boards together. If *this* one is just a tiny bit off, and then the next one is just another tiny bit off, and the next one, and the next one, it doesn’t take long for the entire project to come out like shit. And then I kick my own ass for it not being like the perfect image that I started with in my head.
But me, personally? I *never* try that hard to be perfect in anything. Because I know I’m not and never will be.
My question is, is there a difference between trying to make the project perfect and trying to make myself perfect? Are they the same thing?
Thank you Lou! 🙏 I think trying to be the best Megan I can be, fairly often is pretty damn good.
In my rational mind, I know perfection is impossible. To be human is to be multifaceted and complicated… and that’s beautiful.
Striving for happiness and following the nudges of my inner knowing and treating self and others with kindness (…mostly 😏) sounds pretty good to me.
Perfection can go fuck itself.
I guess all I try to do is be “better” today than I was yesterday - as determined by *my own* scale, and NOT anyone else’s.
(the nice thing is, since it’s *my* scale, and nobody knows what either that or the daily goal are, nobody can rip me for not being better today - a “get out of jail free” card.)
Haha yes, everything really is subjective anyways.
Damn you perfection
Damn it to hell!!
So I hope that you're saving these. I believe you should look at putting out a book of poetry. I think you have a knack for it and could find a hell of an audience with your raw views and expression.