I love Shame Sandwich and I hate the fact that I can't call it by abbreviating its initials for obivous reasons... And, again, we have another thing in common: Marie Vandoorne. I love her. I think you should try some Brazilian literature in 2025. Thanks for this amazing newsletter, Megan! Happy New Year!
💛 Thank you so much for this comment, smiling so big right now! 💛 And DAMNIT!! I loooove a good abbreviation but you’re right… my newsletter really can’t be abbreviated without people thinking I’m terrible 😭😂 Yessss, MV is amazing. 💕 And, I would love to read some Brazillian literature! (I would totally read yours but don’t understand Portuguese (I believe?) ☹️) Fun fact: During my trips to Ireland I’ve met some WONDERFUL Brazilians, and have had tons of fun dancing with them. 🥰
From someone who is currently writing a book about her shameful family that put the "fun" in "dysfunction," I was laughing through your enire post Megan. You definitely take the prize and I'm happy for you that you all had a laugh and it wasn't awful. You'll have a great memory of this Christmas spent with family. That is a win! Happy New Year and I look forward to reading you in 2025. Love, Virg.
❤️❤️❤️ Ahhhh I’m SO happy to hear this post made you laugh!!! 😂🙏 Fun in dysfunction… yep!! 😅 I’m so glad we have this memory, too. 🙏 Happiest of New Year to you, too!!! 🤗
Crap! I always gotta go pee before reading your shame sandwich, Megan!! Seriously pee. Not crap 🤣
Disfunctional family on display. Ha! Do they read your shit? I sure hope so. Serves them right
I've still stalled publishing my hero post for the fear of shaming myself too much. It might be the way to start off 2025 and get a boatload of "no shit!"
Love you little sister and Amelia, the luckiest kid in the world 💜
And, no — I’m too terrified to let my parents read my shit. Isn’t that pathetic of me? Lord I’m such a scared bitch. 😬😂 One day, I will have to rip the bandaid off and let them read all of it.
I'm such a pussy when it comes to coming clean with my family. Brother specifically, who's now a born-again Christian. Let that soak in.
Mama Peggy was privy to all my failings. Over the two decades she shared our home with us, when I shared some of my darkest, she would sit there pondering quietly for a while.
Then, she flip her hand, and say, "Get over it! Stop living in the past."
I giggled and treasure your opening statement about ducks to classify the C level family stuff. And I laughed at your gift box! That is epic! Did you create the labels yourself??
Hahaha YAY!! Love to induce giggling!!! 😂🦆😂 The box is amazing right?! I actually found it online! But I would LOVE to work for that company on others, or create my own! hahaha
Yes…. soooo messy when it’s messy. 😭 And yes, estranged for same reasons. My parents have never met her youngest son… he’s FOUR now. It makes me sooooo angry. So many feels beneath the surface and amidst the “family peace truce”. But it does REALLY bother me. 😭 Amongst a lot of other things. Sigh.
Of course if my one daughter had her way I wouldn’t speak to her sister. It’s forked up. Why do people need to be so contentious? And why don’t parents say sorry when they’ve hurt us? I’ve said so many sorries to my kids!
YES! If I’ve learned one thing from my parents, by them NOT doing it, is to saying fucking SORRY to my child. I never got that from my parents growing up. Parents mess up. Kids mess up. It’s part of being human. And acknowledging it and apologizing sincerely while working on the offending issue make ALL the difference.
You are absolutely hilarious!! That butt cleaner has me snorting!! Brilliant!! How do you think of this stuff?!?! It’s hysterical!! I got some family issues, too. I haven’t spoken to my mom in 9 years. That’s ok. My sister who passed away in 2015 is her only child apparently. Same with my brother. My mother is a piece of cake. I love your stories!! ❤️
Hahahha YAY!!!! I’m so glad you loved the butt cleaner!!! 😂😂😂 Has me dying every time I think of it, too. I found the box online and new I HAD to buy it for family Christmas hahaha. And… huge hugs to you. 💔 I’m so sorry your mom treats you that way. You’re so amazing and wonderful, thank you for being here!!! 💕
Right?! 😂😂😂 I will never get over the gift opening hahaha. And ARGHE, addicting and garbage is 100% accurate. And then I’m over here trying to justify it… what’s wrong with enjoying a show? Why is this worse for my brain than, say, The Office? And so, I shall keep watching. 🤣
RE: Family. Like I tell people, my family lives in upstate New York, I don’t, and there are reasons for that. The past is history. ANYBODY can go back and find a reason to loathe every member of their family. It’s not worth it. It’s not worth bringing it up looking for “closure”. It happened. You can’t change it. Why open old wounds? Just gotta move on.
RE: Gift. Fantastic. Utterly fantastic. WELL played. I have wire wheels out in my garage and couldn’t help thinking of one of those turning 2700 RPM and going *there*. YIKES! Indeed you did win Christmas.
RE: Dry skin. I solved that problem with a humidifier. I keep the humidity over 40% all winter. (Unless it gets REALLY cold, that is, because humidity can cause mold and make insulation sweat, which are both bad news.)
It’s been my pleasure to get to know what you’ve been willing (and able) to show the world. That takes a lot of flat-out GUTS, and I’ve read NOTHING from you that’s in any way “shameful”. Walk with your head high, and Happy New Year.
I think there’s a balance to past family traumas… on the one hand if we’re constantly living in the past, that’s a very shit way to live. And you’ll be miserable. Letting go is healing. On the other hand, I think it’s also healing to speak up, and reject being afraid for speaking up, especially when you didn’t have a voice. And, even though it’s been so superficial, I would like to see if I can get to a place to have a real relationship with my parents, too.
Yes the gift was the bestest thing ever. 😂😂😂😂
Proper humidity levels definitely help!! (I’m just afraid of mold. 🥲)
Sounds like you’re on your way with your parents. I certainly wouldn’t expect an apology, but you might get to the point where you’re not on eggshells around them, trying not to offend. It appears you’re at “toleration” level now, with “mutual respect” hopefully around the corner. I’m SURE the “gift” helped that a lot. They might’ve seen a facet of you they’d forgotten about, or just didn’t appreciate before. Maybe they’ll get to where they see you as a grown-ass woman, making her own decisions and living with the consequences.
Happy New Year to YOU, Megan! Let’s both make it the best one ever.
Such a delightful post of yours. And I am HONORED that you would share me with your community. I am so grateful to have met you this year and cannot wait to continue this lovely journey. You are simply amazing.
I love Shame Sandwich and I hate the fact that I can't call it by abbreviating its initials for obivous reasons... And, again, we have another thing in common: Marie Vandoorne. I love her. I think you should try some Brazilian literature in 2025. Thanks for this amazing newsletter, Megan! Happy New Year!
💛 Thank you so much for this comment, smiling so big right now! 💛 And DAMNIT!! I loooove a good abbreviation but you’re right… my newsletter really can’t be abbreviated without people thinking I’m terrible 😭😂 Yessss, MV is amazing. 💕 And, I would love to read some Brazillian literature! (I would totally read yours but don’t understand Portuguese (I believe?) ☹️) Fun fact: During my trips to Ireland I’ve met some WONDERFUL Brazilians, and have had tons of fun dancing with them. 🥰
Okay, maybe it is just me, but the thought that stayed with me—to the end!—is why, on earth, would you put it in the dishwasher…??
😂😂😂 That part killed me too, NOT THE DISHWASHER!!! 🤣
From someone who is currently writing a book about her shameful family that put the "fun" in "dysfunction," I was laughing through your enire post Megan. You definitely take the prize and I'm happy for you that you all had a laugh and it wasn't awful. You'll have a great memory of this Christmas spent with family. That is a win! Happy New Year and I look forward to reading you in 2025. Love, Virg.
❤️❤️❤️ Ahhhh I’m SO happy to hear this post made you laugh!!! 😂🙏 Fun in dysfunction… yep!! 😅 I’m so glad we have this memory, too. 🙏 Happiest of New Year to you, too!!! 🤗
"slicker than a turned-on woman’s magical portal" wins Simile of the Year and I'm stealing it.
HAHAHAHAH laughing all over again re-reading 😂😂😂😂😂😂 YASSSSS 🙏
You dog!! LOVE THE PRANK GIFT you crushed it!!! LOVE YOUR BRAVERY to write about the unspeakable?! Absolutely in awe of you EVERY SINGLE TIME!!!
Everybody should absolutely read your interview at OH PLEASE bc you have sage nuggets of wisdom and our lives have been elevated by it.
JOLLY LOVE AND LIGHT AND GOOD ATOMIC HABITS to you from us dear Megs! 🤍
The prank gift brings me soooo much joy!!! 😂😂
Thank you so much for seeing me and validating me speaking about the unspeakable. It lends so much courage for the next, and the next. 😭💛
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Merry Christmas, Happy New Year. May you (or somebody) enjoy all 2700 of those RPMs.
And yeah, I can relate to “making do by pretending it’s all okay when history says it’s not”.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you, too!!! ❤️ May those 2700 RPM’s make someone very happy. 😂😂😂
Yeah….. christ. The shit shoved underneath the rug is not pretty. At least what’s been placed on top of the rug has been… “pleasant”. 😅
OMG I was ROTFLMAO 🤣 that gift is soooooo funny! Thank you for all your insightful and hilarious posts ❤️
Hahaha YASSSSS 😂😂😂😂 I’m soooo glad I could share the joy of this prank gift box!!!! 🤣 And thank you so much for the kind words, Erica. 🙏💛💛
Crap! I always gotta go pee before reading your shame sandwich, Megan!! Seriously pee. Not crap 🤣
Disfunctional family on display. Ha! Do they read your shit? I sure hope so. Serves them right
I've still stalled publishing my hero post for the fear of shaming myself too much. It might be the way to start off 2025 and get a boatload of "no shit!"
Love you little sister and Amelia, the luckiest kid in the world 💜
Your opening comment paragraph HAHAHA 😂😂😂😂
And, no — I’m too terrified to let my parents read my shit. Isn’t that pathetic of me? Lord I’m such a scared bitch. 😬😂 One day, I will have to rip the bandaid off and let them read all of it.
I love you too, big sister! 💛
I'm such a pussy when it comes to coming clean with my family. Brother specifically, who's now a born-again Christian. Let that soak in.
Mama Peggy was privy to all my failings. Over the two decades she shared our home with us, when I shared some of my darkest, she would sit there pondering quietly for a while.
Then, she flip her hand, and say, "Get over it! Stop living in the past."
Damn, I miss Mama.🙂↕️
Omg…. brother now a born again Christian?! 😅 Yeah, those peeps bring out the shame hives in me and make me wanna cower. 🥲
Mama Peggy was simply the bestest. 🥹 Getting to know her a little bit, through you, is very special. 💕
I'm honored to be Mama Peggy's conduit. She raised me. Molded me. Assured me I could do anything, and I still hear her voice.
When I was growing so fast, she would tap me in the center of my back and say, "Head up. Shoulders back. Stick em out. Stand up and be proud."
That was before I had anything to stick out. 🤪
What an amazing human Mama Peggy was/is, living through you!!! 🥹
Wow! that's what Teri Leigh says, Mama Peggy lives through me :)
I giggled and treasure your opening statement about ducks to classify the C level family stuff. And I laughed at your gift box! That is epic! Did you create the labels yourself??
Hahaha YAY!! Love to induce giggling!!! 😂🦆😂 The box is amazing right?! I actually found it online! But I would LOVE to work for that company on others, or create my own! hahaha
I came for the snail shit and stayed for the RotoWipe lmao
HAHAHA yassss!!!! 😂😂 Best combo EVER 🐌 🚽
I feel that desire to go along to get along—family stuff is so messy! Is your sister estranged for the same reasons you were?
My grandma was our family glue, so when she died all the claws and fangs came out and it was never the same.
Yes…. soooo messy when it’s messy. 😭 And yes, estranged for same reasons. My parents have never met her youngest son… he’s FOUR now. It makes me sooooo angry. So many feels beneath the surface and amidst the “family peace truce”. But it does REALLY bother me. 😭 Amongst a lot of other things. Sigh.
Awwe, that’s sooo sad. 💔😭
What is up with people. Damn.
Of course if my one daughter had her way I wouldn’t speak to her sister. It’s forked up. Why do people need to be so contentious? And why don’t parents say sorry when they’ve hurt us? I’ve said so many sorries to my kids!
YES! If I’ve learned one thing from my parents, by them NOT doing it, is to saying fucking SORRY to my child. I never got that from my parents growing up. Parents mess up. Kids mess up. It’s part of being human. And acknowledging it and apologizing sincerely while working on the offending issue make ALL the difference.
EXACTLY!!
You are absolutely hilarious!! That butt cleaner has me snorting!! Brilliant!! How do you think of this stuff?!?! It’s hysterical!! I got some family issues, too. I haven’t spoken to my mom in 9 years. That’s ok. My sister who passed away in 2015 is her only child apparently. Same with my brother. My mother is a piece of cake. I love your stories!! ❤️
Hahahha YAY!!!! I’m so glad you loved the butt cleaner!!! 😂😂😂 Has me dying every time I think of it, too. I found the box online and new I HAD to buy it for family Christmas hahaha. And… huge hugs to you. 💔 I’m so sorry your mom treats you that way. You’re so amazing and wonderful, thank you for being here!!! 💕
Haha. That gift is hilarious! Also Below Deck is addicting (but also garbage). Great combo. Lol
Right?! 😂😂😂 I will never get over the gift opening hahaha. And ARGHE, addicting and garbage is 100% accurate. And then I’m over here trying to justify it… what’s wrong with enjoying a show? Why is this worse for my brain than, say, The Office? And so, I shall keep watching. 🤣
RE: Family. Like I tell people, my family lives in upstate New York, I don’t, and there are reasons for that. The past is history. ANYBODY can go back and find a reason to loathe every member of their family. It’s not worth it. It’s not worth bringing it up looking for “closure”. It happened. You can’t change it. Why open old wounds? Just gotta move on.
RE: Gift. Fantastic. Utterly fantastic. WELL played. I have wire wheels out in my garage and couldn’t help thinking of one of those turning 2700 RPM and going *there*. YIKES! Indeed you did win Christmas.
RE: Dry skin. I solved that problem with a humidifier. I keep the humidity over 40% all winter. (Unless it gets REALLY cold, that is, because humidity can cause mold and make insulation sweat, which are both bad news.)
It’s been my pleasure to get to know what you’ve been willing (and able) to show the world. That takes a lot of flat-out GUTS, and I’ve read NOTHING from you that’s in any way “shameful”. Walk with your head high, and Happy New Year.
Happy New Year, Lou!!! ✨🙏
I think there’s a balance to past family traumas… on the one hand if we’re constantly living in the past, that’s a very shit way to live. And you’ll be miserable. Letting go is healing. On the other hand, I think it’s also healing to speak up, and reject being afraid for speaking up, especially when you didn’t have a voice. And, even though it’s been so superficial, I would like to see if I can get to a place to have a real relationship with my parents, too.
Yes the gift was the bestest thing ever. 😂😂😂😂
Proper humidity levels definitely help!! (I’m just afraid of mold. 🥲)
Sounds like you’re on your way with your parents. I certainly wouldn’t expect an apology, but you might get to the point where you’re not on eggshells around them, trying not to offend. It appears you’re at “toleration” level now, with “mutual respect” hopefully around the corner. I’m SURE the “gift” helped that a lot. They might’ve seen a facet of you they’d forgotten about, or just didn’t appreciate before. Maybe they’ll get to where they see you as a grown-ass woman, making her own decisions and living with the consequences.
Happy New Year to YOU, Megan! Let’s both make it the best one ever.
Yes, I’m hopeful! 🙏 Here’t to making it the best one yet!!!
Such a delightful post of yours. And I am HONORED that you would share me with your community. I am so grateful to have met you this year and cannot wait to continue this lovely journey. You are simply amazing.
- A 🩵
The pleasure is mine, it is such a great read. 🙏 And ditto!! Cheers to an AMAZING 2025! ✨✨✨
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