That's a lot of thinks... big brain much! Sorry that life is taking you down a particularly crap highway at the moment. But what I know of you is that you are more than game, able, and strong enough to take it all on and win... whatever winning happens to look like in this situation. Best of British luck to you Megan.
I read an interesting book which dealt with emotions as well. Of course, this is something we probably sense as true, but just as a reminder to you and me – emotions are our response to the way we interpret the world, with the purpose of protecting ourselves and our self-image. So, these are manipulations. Once we see that self-image is just an imagination and completely arbitrary definition of ourselves, we can realize that emotions have no purpose, and we can choose not to act on them. Easier said than done :)
HMMM… I shall be pondering this more! I do believe that self image is a complete arbitrary definition of ourselves. And should NOT hold us hostage. However… I do love to feel. 🥹 And emotions are what make us human, are they not? My curiosity is sparked, thank you for sharing!! 🙏
Been thinking about this. There are levels of grief. An older grandparent who’s been sick, or a parent, is one level. But you know they’re not healthy, and maybe dying, so it still hurts and leaves a hole behind in their place, but you’re not shocked. Putting down a loved pet causes grief. But inside you know they’re wont live long - unless your pet is a tortoise. A relationship breakup can cause a lot of grief, especially if it’s the other person that did the breaking.
It’s the sudden ones, the unexpected ones, that create consternation: “Is there ANYTHING I could’ve done to prevent it? Because I *GLADLY* would have.” I cannot even IMAGINE what you’re going through for your daughter’s sake. But life has given you the ability to be tough for her. Hang in there. You’re stronger than you think. Keep fighting like you’ve always done. Mama Bear ain’t EVER gonna give up!!!
♥️ Thank you for these words of encouragement!!! I am stronger then I know, and mama bear will NEVER give up. And yes… definitely different stages of grief!
My god, you are a presence and I am so grateful to have the thin thread of connection that we have. I am an old lady who has never been a mom cuz I knew I was too broken. I love kids so I became a special ed teacher…I wanted to work with marginalized kids since I was one myself. Your presence makes me happy. This is so insufficient cuz I know you are experiencing pain. Still, the fact that you exist with all your pain and honesty and verbal diarrhea (not in this post but in many others) makes it possible for me to continue to participate in this community.
Some premium thoughts precious queen. This week I thought if I could see my future self, would I be motivated to get there, or not? I ended up deciding that given the chance, I wouldn’t want to know. Not sure if that’s acceptance or denial 🤣 but I love your deep feelings and I see myself here - thank you. 🙏
Oh I just love *your* premium thoughts…. thank you so much for sharing. 🥹♥️ For in sharing, I feel more ok with my own human-ness. For I believe that is what we are… beautiful humans with beautiful souls navigating all the questions and deep feelings of life. And now… imma be pondering that same Q! 🤣
Feeling is the route to healing. We all gotta do. Suppression will just make you ill, in the long run. Go easy on yourself. Grief only shows that we loved.
When life has been difficult for me, I found relief in stuff like work, and cooking potatoes for my kid, and folding laundry. I hope you continue to find relief in places like that and places like the lake.
A lot of emotions, a lot of pain. Sending you my prayers.
Thank you so much. 🙏
I can't answer many of those questions. The only one I can try is ... you are beautiful so whomever she might be, surely it is she that worries
Thank you! ♥️🙏
That's a lot of thinks... big brain much! Sorry that life is taking you down a particularly crap highway at the moment. But what I know of you is that you are more than game, able, and strong enough to take it all on and win... whatever winning happens to look like in this situation. Best of British luck to you Megan.
Thank you so very much JFT! 🙏 Really appreciate the kind words, AND the British luck. ♥️
Compared to you guys in the USA currently I do feel a bit lucky being British (even though the weather's crap and it's a bit boring!!)
I read an interesting book which dealt with emotions as well. Of course, this is something we probably sense as true, but just as a reminder to you and me – emotions are our response to the way we interpret the world, with the purpose of protecting ourselves and our self-image. So, these are manipulations. Once we see that self-image is just an imagination and completely arbitrary definition of ourselves, we can realize that emotions have no purpose, and we can choose not to act on them. Easier said than done :)
HMMM… I shall be pondering this more! I do believe that self image is a complete arbitrary definition of ourselves. And should NOT hold us hostage. However… I do love to feel. 🥹 And emotions are what make us human, are they not? My curiosity is sparked, thank you for sharing!! 🙏
Been thinking about this. There are levels of grief. An older grandparent who’s been sick, or a parent, is one level. But you know they’re not healthy, and maybe dying, so it still hurts and leaves a hole behind in their place, but you’re not shocked. Putting down a loved pet causes grief. But inside you know they’re wont live long - unless your pet is a tortoise. A relationship breakup can cause a lot of grief, especially if it’s the other person that did the breaking.
It’s the sudden ones, the unexpected ones, that create consternation: “Is there ANYTHING I could’ve done to prevent it? Because I *GLADLY* would have.” I cannot even IMAGINE what you’re going through for your daughter’s sake. But life has given you the ability to be tough for her. Hang in there. You’re stronger than you think. Keep fighting like you’ve always done. Mama Bear ain’t EVER gonna give up!!!
♥️ Thank you for these words of encouragement!!! I am stronger then I know, and mama bear will NEVER give up. And yes… definitely different stages of grief!
My god, you are a presence and I am so grateful to have the thin thread of connection that we have. I am an old lady who has never been a mom cuz I knew I was too broken. I love kids so I became a special ed teacher…I wanted to work with marginalized kids since I was one myself. Your presence makes me happy. This is so insufficient cuz I know you are experiencing pain. Still, the fact that you exist with all your pain and honesty and verbal diarrhea (not in this post but in many others) makes it possible for me to continue to participate in this community.
All the chills. Thank you so much for sharing this! I’m so so so grateful my words have an impact. 😭♥️🙏
I'm sending you a big hug, wanting you to feel better. You have many friends here who are holding you in our thoughts. Be good to yourself.
Thank you so much John! Really appreciate this. 🙏
Some premium thoughts precious queen. This week I thought if I could see my future self, would I be motivated to get there, or not? I ended up deciding that given the chance, I wouldn’t want to know. Not sure if that’s acceptance or denial 🤣 but I love your deep feelings and I see myself here - thank you. 🙏
Oh I just love *your* premium thoughts…. thank you so much for sharing. 🥹♥️ For in sharing, I feel more ok with my own human-ness. For I believe that is what we are… beautiful humans with beautiful souls navigating all the questions and deep feelings of life. And now… imma be pondering that same Q! 🤣
Ok plz report back bc I need to know if you need to know about future Megs!!
Yes yes!!
Feeling is the route to healing. We all gotta do. Suppression will just make you ill, in the long run. Go easy on yourself. Grief only shows that we loved.
Feeling is the route to healing… love that. Thank you for sharing. ♥️ Here’s to remember being easy on ourselves. 🙏
That's a lot.
When life has been difficult for me, I found relief in stuff like work, and cooking potatoes for my kid, and folding laundry. I hope you continue to find relief in places like that and places like the lake.
Holding you in my thoughts.
Thank you so much Mary! ♥️ I absolutely agree staying busy is good for the soul. 🫶