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julie elder's avatar

Holy shirt, girl, I love your unfiltered self! You make me laugh, nod, laugh some more. Oh do we need to laugh so we don’t cry daily. Keep it up!

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Megan Lee's avatar

Thank god you love the unfiltered me!!! 😅😂🙏 I love this comment!!! Hell YES to daily laughter! 🥰💯🙏

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julie elder's avatar

You’re amazing—don’t forget that.

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MJ Rue's avatar

Yo I can’t believe how many times I thought “this sounds like me, talking to me.” So naturally, I love this shit… In its entirety. Respect, darling. Respect.

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Megan Lee's avatar

🥹 Ohhhhh my heart is growing with reading this! From one person with big feels to another... I see you! 🙏

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MJ Rue's avatar

So grateful to be seen 🙏 continue your amazing work. I think I’m going to stop repressing myself and let some of my thoughts out as well. To hell with the fear of being judged, for no one is as cynical and self deprecating as me 😂😂😂 you’re inspiring!!!

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Megan Lee's avatar

😂 omg SO TRUE, we are our worstest critic!!! Cheering you on!!!

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kelli campbell's avatar

I couldn't agree more. Megan, you are a blessing. Thank you.

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Megan Lee's avatar

Kelli! 💛 Thank you!!! 🥹🥰🙏

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kaylen alexandra's avatar

Same same same and concur with MJ & Kelli. Megan 👑. I loved this down to the very last detail of your date (sorry for all the red flags). My sister and I have been STUCK IN THE MUD of life and OVER IT too. Every time we talk each other down, we land on patience (such a bitch!)

I love your 6 m goal, and I love that you will lead with intuition and not fear.

Keep us posted on your status. We are all here for it/you! 🤩

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Megan Lee's avatar

Oh Miss K, I just love you! You are such a bright light!!! 🥹🥰✨ I cannot wait for a beautiful bridge to be built for you and your sister to get OUT OF THE MUD and into the NOT MUD!!! I am eagerly anticipating its arrival for you!

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kaylen alexandra's avatar

Your words are the building blocks for our bridge!!

I just love you right back!! 🤍

TGIF lady!

Let’s burn our laptops to the ground. (The corporate laptops that is- not our personal devices that connect us to this platform 😂)

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Megan Lee's avatar

🥰🥰 TGIF!!

Corporate only!! May our personals live for ever!!! 😂

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Eric Robinson's avatar

Real. I’m 56 now. Been right where you are. Loathing my imposter self for years. Trying to trust God during the process. Better now, finally. This is meaningless, but … Lots of us really do know how crazy difficult that life is. Lots of non-writers know. (I don’t know how they cope.) But, things can, and surprisingly often do, turn on a dime. It’s not predictable, but it happens. Your writing is awesome! You are a bright spot for many, I assure you!

P.S. Salt and Pepper Diner, John Mulaney.

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Megan Lee's avatar

💛 thank you so much for sharing this!!! I'm so happy you kept pushing through! Imposter syndrome is a psycho hell hole. 😭 And, I'm so happy you mentioned things can turn on a dime. It's so easy for me to get in my head and think "it's impossible for x,y, or z, to change anytime soon" when the reality is... miracles can and do happen all of the time, always unexpectedly. And when I remember THAT, things feel a lot lighter. So, thank you again for sharing that! 🥹

Also thank you for the rec!!! I don't know if I've heard that one yet, I can't wait to look that bit up! 😂😂😂

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Lisa Kennedy's avatar

Eric, you are Not an imposter....you are HERE writing....putting your heart Out there...(Brave for Men)Braving the possible criticism of the reply button...( 8 out of 10 substackers have higher degrees so...) be proud of yourself and pat yourself on the back..you earned this place ..and your kids/grands/nieces, friends etc need that.💙 (Read daily!)

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Jenn (they/them)'s avatar

Eric, whomever invented the 50's should be slapped lol this has been the hardest decade of my life and I'm only 51! All I do is inventory and go this is it. So, I have been working on building strong, deeper connections to grant myself more intimacy.

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Alexander Lovell, PhD's avatar

The degree to which you can be happy is the degree to which you can be honest." Damn, that hit me like a shot of espresso. It's so true, yet so terrifying. It's like we're all walking around with a low-grade honesty hangover, and the only cure is a full-on truth-telling binge. Scary, but also incredibly liberating.

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Megan Lee's avatar

Wow… low grade honest hangover, and the only cure is a full-on truth-telling binge. TERRIFYING!!! AND oh so much liberation on the other side!!! 🥹🙏(p.s. now I want espresso martini? 😂)

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Lisa Kennedy's avatar

Kick ass article (which is helping me post-dump election)I wish I could be a paying sub for your work but I can't...please do keep on keeping on if you-could-be-so-kind......we love you!

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Megan Lee's avatar

Thank you so very much Lisa!!! I love that you’re here to very much, and don’t waste a second worry about not being able to be a paying sub! 💕 I shall absolutely keep on writing! 🥹💛

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Jenn (they/them)'s avatar

I hate it here too. I completely understand where you are coming from. I'm here for you anytime you need someone. I'm a helper who misses helping. I have never felt like I belong on this earth. I feel like an alien. People treat me like an alien. I hide from everyone. I don't feel safe when I leave my house. I don't drive anymore. I have no desire to do anything. I miss connecting. I'm very lonely. I try to make friends and they just aren't good enough people for me. I must love those in need.

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Megan Lee's avatar

Oh Jen! I am sending you SO MUCH LOVE! You are a radiant being, uniquely yourself, and that is oh so precious. I relate so deeply to feeling like you don't fit in. I have felt that almost my entire life for various reasons. And that IS so lonely. 🥺 I pray that you can continue to find healing and joy, following whatever it is that is right for YOU, and just keep following it. 🥹🙏💕 p.s. your being here and seeing me IS helping me. 🙏💛

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Lisa Kennedy's avatar

Be comforted that there are Hundreds near you, and Thousands around you that are feeling EXACTLY the same way, so actually you might FEEL lonely, but you're Not alone. (I'm on the West Coast🙂) Try a smile .. you WILL find each other! 💖

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Jenn (they/them)'s avatar

Thank you, Lisa. I'm in a much better place. I've been lonely for too many years. I used to live on 4 antidepressants and I decided I couldn't be that numb anymore. Now, I cry often but in short bursts just to get the pain out.

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kaylen alexandra's avatar

Jennnnn, we must unite. You are safe in Megan’s presence. This space is like mattresses world - comfy and will mold to you in ways you didn’t know you needed.

You absolutely DO belong. You do. You do. You do. ✨

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Jenn (they/them)'s avatar

Much love and thank you!!! I appreciate you and look forward to knowing you 😊

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Ryn Corbeil's avatar

I'm gonna apologize in advance (but I'm old enough to be your father, so...) for saying this: if you have enough time to waste dating losers, you have enough time to find a writing group, or improv, or west-coast swing, or anything where you are having fun, with kind people (some of whom will be dudes--yes,they exist). You care about your daughter, you are creative, talented, that makes you attractive. Let the good people find YOU, like you are doing with this substack.

Keep the faith,

Ryn (and call your mother)

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Megan Lee's avatar

DAMNIT I cannot be mad at this at all! 😂😂 What you speak is very wise. My default story is “well I hardly ever go on dates and if I do, at least I can coordinate with family to watch my daughter, and I can’t join an improv group or a writing group or ANY group because I don’t have the money to pay for a babysitter every week to actually go and DO those things, not to mention the logistics involved”… and yet, my soul leapt at this and whispered “Megan, he’s right. You desperately WANT to do those things… and you will meet wonderful people doing those things… so, trust you will find a way”. And, I’m going to trust I will find a way. 🥹 Thank you, Ryn!

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Ryn Corbeil's avatar

Thatta girl. We readers trust you also. I expect to read accounts soon, where you've let people in. 🙂

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kelli campbell's avatar

Literally, Megan, I think I love you, because you are so fucking funny and real. Please never stop writing. I would pull quote some of my favorite lines but it's basically this entire post so, there you go.

As far as comedians... Jordan Jensen is amazing.

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Megan Lee's avatar

🥹🥹 I AM BURSTING WITH JOY!!!! ldkgfj sda;ljg as ← bursted! Thank you! I absolutely LOVE making people laugh along with sharing all the things. And thank you for the comedian rec, I don’t think I’ve heard of her so I can’t wait to check her out!!!

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Steve Strutt's avatar

I am so glad you have found writing as a way to give the parts of you that matter a voice. Though that, a voice for all of us who have stayed small and silent. I see so many parallels in my own life of your unvanished discoveries of what is going on for you and how you have believed you needed to be to survive. Your words are an expression of the depth of feeling that the hidden parts of you hold. They now have a voice. I feel like I'm connecting you at such a deep level that its bringing tears to my eyes to see you being free to express yourself.

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Megan Lee's avatar

🥹 Thank you so much, Steve! 🙏 It truly is so healing to start to give the parts a voice that have been stuffed down so long. 💛

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Taosted_Writer's avatar

First reaction to this... Hoooly shit that's a lot of emotion. Second reaction... This is my favorite goddamn work of ART on this platform. So many relatable emotions are mixed into one article, in which, I envy you. I could never have the guts to post something so heartfelt here. You are now probably one of my favorite writers now.

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Megan Lee's avatar

🥹 damn, thank you so very much for being here and saying this! Yes to ART!!! Yes to being able to express all the emotions, especially if they’re messy. 🥹 Hugs to you!

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Taosted_Writer's avatar

Sending hugs right back!

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Maggie Jon's avatar

Hormones make a massive difference. I was ready to punch people in the face for over a week (same shit as you, period was late) while crying about feeling 'abandoned', now my period started I'm so fucking happy it would scare my 12 yo self. But sometimes we need to feel SO FUCKING SHIT to get to work. Well done bella ❤️

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Megan Lee's avatar

😂 I just love that journey of hormonal transformation!!! 🤣 Thank you so much, bella!!! Feeling the fucking shit has done massive wonders for me! 🥹🙏

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Karen Brand's avatar

How have I JUST found you? OMG! This is the best read I’ve had since I read The Lord of the Rings. As I read I was literally yelling YES! to all your points. I’m hooked. I’ll be a super fan. You gave me hope and laughs and maybe a few tears. I now officially love you and have something to look forward to.

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Megan Lee's avatar

Oh Karen I’m just GRINNING SO HARD RIGHT NOW!!!!!! 😁😁😁 ← me! Thank you so much for being here! 🥹 I love your energy!!! I’m so glad I could give you all the feels! 😂💛🙏

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Karen Brand's avatar

You made my day! 🥰

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Megan Lee's avatar

🙏💛

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Dr Dennis Callahan's avatar

15 Irish Insults You Should Know:

When the Irish say….. They Mean

Ya Dope You’re an idiot

Ya Ape You’re an idiot

Your an eejit Your an idiot

feckin’ eejit Emphasis on idiot

Your a Spanner Comparing you to a blunt object

Ya Muppet You are foolish

Gobshite Variation of Eejit. See Eejit

Plank As thick as a piece of wood(thick head)

Langer Not used as much anymore, Cork term for a foolish person.

Geebag An unpleasant or foolish person

It’s shīte Emphasis on the “H”. Meaning it is Shit

Stop acting the maggot Stop trying to cause trouble for no reason

Your some Lickarse Often heard in school meaning trying to be a teacher’s pet

He’s a bollix He is an unpleasant person that’s hard to get along with, often male

Your some fecker Gets away with everything

The word Fuck is overused and has become trite in MHO. (grin) Cheers

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Megan Lee's avatar

I don’t know what I did to deserve this but I adore this list!!! 😂🙏

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Baker Beth's avatar

“The degree to which you can be happy is the degree to which you can be honest.” - you got it. Release it all.

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Megan Lee's avatar

🥹 Thank you Beth!!! I am so here for that kind of energy encouragement! 🙏💛💛

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Teri Leigh 💜's avatar

I am your biggest cheerleader. You can and are and will get yourself out of the job and into something fulfilling. Or, something will shift in you and you’ll find fulfillment in the job. Cuz fulfillment is everywhere, if you peel your eyes open and look. 👀

I love you. I’m excited for you!!!

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Megan Lee's avatar

😱 jaw dropped moment!!!! @Teri Leigh 💜 you’re magical, I’m writing about it in today’s newsletter but sneak peek for you: this week has been INCREDIBLY fulfilling in my job! 😱 And you’re right, fulfillment DOES come in all shapes and sizes, all around us. 🥹 I know in my heart that my dream career lies elsewhere, but I’m oh so grateful for at least this past week. 🥰🥹 I love you too! Thank you so much of your support!!!

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Vera's avatar

I have to be honest that I like it raw—your writing, I mean.

Thank you for being here! You make me laugh and cry every time I read you. It’s always an emotional rollercoaster and I’m a thrill seeker, so I’m sticking around for the long run!

I can’t wait for more and especially more good news about your future! You owe it to yourself! Go Megan!!! ❤️🔥

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Megan Lee's avatar

😂😂😂 “Shame Sandwich, not for the faint of heart, experienced thrill seekers (read: whip lashers) only!!!” ← now that’s a solid tagline right there!!! hahaha thank you SO MUCH for your biggest smile inducing words! 🥹 I’m so honored that you’re here, and that my words can make you laugh and cry, on this crazy shame sandwich journey 🙏💛💛💛

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Vera's avatar

So lucky to have found your writing. It cuts through all the insurmountable layers of shame. Thank you so much for sharing your humor and wit with us! ❤️

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