I started therapy three weeks ago too, and as I was trying to give my new therapist the condensed version of my story, I started crying as well! I don’t think he is that good, but he’s someone to talk to, and as you say, a good therapist is hard to find!
By the way, I have to say, Megan, that that picture of you is intensely beautiful. I’m so moved by the beauty of human sadness that is so present in that image. Hand on heart for you, dear. ❤️🩹
♥️ Wow, chills... I'm so proud of us for being on our uniquely parallel healing journeys. 🥹🙏 The very act of having a 'safe space' and talking to someone for that very reason is sooooo profound. And... I hope we can continue to find a therapist that is not just a good match, but a perfect one for what we need. 🙏
And, thank you so much for your kind words... truly means SO much. Sending you a virtual hug too!!!
Don! I’m so proud of you! It is so brave to be vulnerable and to take the first step! May your journey lead you to healing and peace in your heart and soul ☺️
You will know pure peace in this go-around. And you will teach it to others who seek to heal themselves instead of take an eye for an eye.
I’m re-reading Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. If you haven’t yet, PROMISE ME, you will add to the list. TOP OF THE LIST. The theme uses vulnerability as the tool to live a wholesome life.
😭♥️✨🙏 THANK YOU, for all of your words, my sweet friend. 🥹 This is my beautiful reminder to re-read Daring Greatly. I already know it's going to be so timely and healing... and I know it wasn't a coincidence that you gave me this nudge. 🙏🫶✨❤️🔥 And, I'm SO GLAD YOU ARE RE-READING THIS BOOK, too. ♥️
I have sat with this for 3 days, trying to come up with the right words to comment. They aren't coming, because there are no words. Other than, I just love you. all of you. every teeny tiny little piece and part and moment of you is held in love and adoration and utter awe in my heart.
All the chills. Your unconditional acceptance and support feel like being wrapped in a weighted blanket of love, and it is oh so soothing. Thank you, Teri Leigh, for being exactly who you are. I love you! ♥️♥️♥️♥️
M......❤️💔🥹 rehashing all of this so many times with therapists and then writing it and THEN sharing it, and then read comments about it??!! Christ...that is just so much at once. I wanted to poke that therapist in the throat for you with the way she ended the session. I wanted to PUNCH a few other people you mentioned in the throat. I had a similar experience with a therapist. Like you just poured your soul to this stranger and ripped open so many deep, scabbed over wounds hoping they can help heal them, only to have them pour salt in them. Then you have to start all over again, and continuously talk about the things you've expertly kept in tightly sealed boxes. But, what seems counterintuitive ends up being the very thing that needs to happen. The more you talk about it, the less painful it starts to become. And you start to feel safe enough to begin to breathe again. I am so proud of you for making the leap to find someone to help you with all of this. It's heavy stuff and I agree...your too young to have gone through SO much already. And you have such an amazing spirit so, yeah, the why me question is absolutely valid. But I think you hit the nail on the head. Your trauma and how you are dealing with it is the why. You are so open and real and it's beyond encouraging for so many...Like, no matter what is flung at you, you refuse to give in and you keep. getting. up. You give us hope. You're legit a beacon of HOPE, M.......
Keep making your mess your message, babe. It's working. ❤️❤️🔥🫂
YOU'VE GIVEN ME A CHILL ORGASM!!! 😂 And now you've made me chuckle. Thank you for being here, HHMC, and being you. Your words are soooo encouraging to me... "Keep making your mess your message" and "a legit beacon of HOPE"... 🥹🙏✨♥️ Here's to getting help, shedding the pain and letting others in. HERE'S TO LIVING FREE.
Oh, Megan! I don't think I'll ever stop loving your writing. You're truly one of the most beautiful souls I've seen on here and I'm so grateful to have found you across many newsletters.
You deserve a lot of compassion and love. I hope you get the help your mind and body needs. We need you here with us! Thank you for being the way you are! You indirectly help others too! Be well!❤️
Oh Vera, these words mean oh so much to me!!! 😭♥️ Thank you, thank you for being here and sharing your encouragement with me. I am absolutely taking it with me. 🥹🙏✨
Sending you the BIGGEST virtual hug, Megan!!! 💛 I have been in therapy for 10 years now (on and off), always with the same therapist because she is AMAZING. I sought her out at 31, when I was going through my divorce. She knows me so well now; I only reach out if I would like some extra support. Sometimes I consider going more regularly again, but like you said, it is SO expensive. I hope you find the right therapist because it is truly life changing. This is only the beginning for you.
Hug received!!! 🫶 I'm SO encouraged by your comment... thank you so much for being here and sharing your life changing experience with finding the right therapist. 🥹 FILLS ME WITH MASSIVE HOPE. 🙏♥️
I read your posts that aren’t trying to be funny not because of your trauma. I’m not some trauma junkie. I read them because it feels good to see someone rising out of those ashes, somebody battered but unbeaten. Keep rising, kiddo.
Dear Megan, our terribly misguided parents grew up with walls and the only thing they knew to teach us to cope was to teach us to build walls. They did not know how to ‘communicate’ and could not teach us how. I grieve for you that your parents thought they could just give you a bigger wall (religion) in order to help you survive whatever would come your way. It never occurred to them that their walls ‘church, religion, God, etc’ would not help you cope but instead keep you from being able to cope. Recognizing the walls is a giant step for you. Tearing all of them down is much harder. You have made a valiant start. Many of us have walls to contend with but yours are much taller than most. I am amazed and impressed by your strength. In spite of the fear and shame you are the one who is now breaking the cycle. You are the one who your children will one day recognize as the person who saved them from that cycle. I believe our shame comes from recognizing our mistakes, but we ALL make mistakes and our mistakes seem bigger when the walls we must demolish are bigger. The other part of this is harder for us to acknowledge. Our triumphs are also bigger. Your triumph at this tragic stage may not be complete but it is none the less, HUGE! Congratulations on the steps you have taken. These first steps are the only way to start. Continue to share with us. We, your readers and admirers will continue to support you. You are a brave and powerful person with monumental task before you. Raise your daughters with love. Continue to talk with them even when it’s most difficult. Encourage them to be real and honest with you as you are also with them. Rejoice with them when the walls come down and grieve with them when the walls seem insurmountable. But keep on trying. Keep being honest, with them, with yourself and with us. You have done the hardest part in taking that first step. Now it’s a matter of putting one foot in front of the other. But as you do please let us, your readers, walk with you. The path in front of you is easier and smoother when we walk it together.
Love and best wishes to you as you set out on your journey. It really is worth all the pain you will endure.
"The path in front of you is easier and smoother when we walk it together."... chills. 🙏Thank you sooo very much for being here, and taking the time to leave all of this encouragement with me. It truly means so much! ♥️🙏
So many beautifully articulated comments here, yet I’ve sat with this for days and still can’t seem to find the right words...so I'm just going to say that I am, and continue to be absolutely in awe of you 🖤🖤🖤
Oh Amber, thank you so much! Receiving your virtual hug and support and beautiful energy through your comment is so uplifting. 🥹🥹🥹 I'm so happy and encouraged to hear that therapy has helped you! ♥️
I'm sending you the love and support you/we deserve to have and didn't from your bio Mom. So guess what? I'm your Mom now. Not THAT kind of Mom, but one who truly loves and supports and listens. You are so strong and so brave. It breaks my Mommy heart to know that you've been carrying this weight for so long.It's so heavy. Now that you're working in therapy, and you have others supporting you, let that weight shift off of your shoulders, even just a pound or two at a time. Gradually, you will come to know that it isn't all exclusively yours to carry. Love and big Mom hugs, Virg Oh and P.S. Fuck Shame
VIRG!!!! Your beautiful mom energy is giving me all the chills and heart soothing vibes right now. 😭♥️ "Now that you're working in therapy, and you have others supporting you, let that weight shift off of your shoulders, even just a pound or two at a time. Gradually, you will come to know that it isn't all exclusively yours to carry"... that is so beautiful, thank you so much for sharing and caring. I'm so blessed that you're here. ♥️
Virtual hug right here, Megan. 🩷
I started therapy three weeks ago too, and as I was trying to give my new therapist the condensed version of my story, I started crying as well! I don’t think he is that good, but he’s someone to talk to, and as you say, a good therapist is hard to find!
By the way, I have to say, Megan, that that picture of you is intensely beautiful. I’m so moved by the beauty of human sadness that is so present in that image. Hand on heart for you, dear. ❤️🩹
Oh and PS: excellent writing! 🙂
♥️ Wow, chills... I'm so proud of us for being on our uniquely parallel healing journeys. 🥹🙏 The very act of having a 'safe space' and talking to someone for that very reason is sooooo profound. And... I hope we can continue to find a therapist that is not just a good match, but a perfect one for what we need. 🙏
And, thank you so much for your kind words... truly means SO much. Sending you a virtual hug too!!!
Don! I’m so proud of you! It is so brave to be vulnerable and to take the first step! May your journey lead you to healing and peace in your heart and soul ☺️
Why, thank you Rocio, that’s very kind of you to say! 🙏💚
There’s no shame in what you’re doing. Only courage. Keep making forward progress.
Thank you so much, Nate! Means a lot. 🙏🙏🙏
My dear, sweet, angel-lady, MEGAN. 💔😭
You brilliant soul.
YOU ARE THE PROTAGONIST
you chose the path of the wise guide.
You will know pure peace in this go-around. And you will teach it to others who seek to heal themselves instead of take an eye for an eye.
I’m re-reading Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. If you haven’t yet, PROMISE ME, you will add to the list. TOP OF THE LIST. The theme uses vulnerability as the tool to live a wholesome life.
YOURE ALREADY DOING IT, WOMAN. ❤️🔥
😭♥️✨🙏 THANK YOU, for all of your words, my sweet friend. 🥹 This is my beautiful reminder to re-read Daring Greatly. I already know it's going to be so timely and healing... and I know it wasn't a coincidence that you gave me this nudge. 🙏🫶✨❤️🔥 And, I'm SO GLAD YOU ARE RE-READING THIS BOOK, too. ♥️
I have sat with this for 3 days, trying to come up with the right words to comment. They aren't coming, because there are no words. Other than, I just love you. all of you. every teeny tiny little piece and part and moment of you is held in love and adoration and utter awe in my heart.
All the chills. Your unconditional acceptance and support feel like being wrapped in a weighted blanket of love, and it is oh so soothing. Thank you, Teri Leigh, for being exactly who you are. I love you! ♥️♥️♥️♥️
M......❤️💔🥹 rehashing all of this so many times with therapists and then writing it and THEN sharing it, and then read comments about it??!! Christ...that is just so much at once. I wanted to poke that therapist in the throat for you with the way she ended the session. I wanted to PUNCH a few other people you mentioned in the throat. I had a similar experience with a therapist. Like you just poured your soul to this stranger and ripped open so many deep, scabbed over wounds hoping they can help heal them, only to have them pour salt in them. Then you have to start all over again, and continuously talk about the things you've expertly kept in tightly sealed boxes. But, what seems counterintuitive ends up being the very thing that needs to happen. The more you talk about it, the less painful it starts to become. And you start to feel safe enough to begin to breathe again. I am so proud of you for making the leap to find someone to help you with all of this. It's heavy stuff and I agree...your too young to have gone through SO much already. And you have such an amazing spirit so, yeah, the why me question is absolutely valid. But I think you hit the nail on the head. Your trauma and how you are dealing with it is the why. You are so open and real and it's beyond encouraging for so many...Like, no matter what is flung at you, you refuse to give in and you keep. getting. up. You give us hope. You're legit a beacon of HOPE, M.......
Keep making your mess your message, babe. It's working. ❤️❤️🔥🫂
YOU'VE GIVEN ME A CHILL ORGASM!!! 😂 And now you've made me chuckle. Thank you for being here, HHMC, and being you. Your words are soooo encouraging to me... "Keep making your mess your message" and "a legit beacon of HOPE"... 🥹🙏✨♥️ Here's to getting help, shedding the pain and letting others in. HERE'S TO LIVING FREE.
Oh, Megan! I don't think I'll ever stop loving your writing. You're truly one of the most beautiful souls I've seen on here and I'm so grateful to have found you across many newsletters.
You deserve a lot of compassion and love. I hope you get the help your mind and body needs. We need you here with us! Thank you for being the way you are! You indirectly help others too! Be well!❤️
Oh Vera, these words mean oh so much to me!!! 😭♥️ Thank you, thank you for being here and sharing your encouragement with me. I am absolutely taking it with me. 🥹🙏✨
You absolutely should! Sending much love your way! ❤️
Sending you the BIGGEST virtual hug, Megan!!! 💛 I have been in therapy for 10 years now (on and off), always with the same therapist because she is AMAZING. I sought her out at 31, when I was going through my divorce. She knows me so well now; I only reach out if I would like some extra support. Sometimes I consider going more regularly again, but like you said, it is SO expensive. I hope you find the right therapist because it is truly life changing. This is only the beginning for you.
Hug received!!! 🫶 I'm SO encouraged by your comment... thank you so much for being here and sharing your life changing experience with finding the right therapist. 🥹 FILLS ME WITH MASSIVE HOPE. 🙏♥️
Thank you for sharing. And for your vulnerability & courage. I really relate. Sending a big hug. x
Thank you so much Liz!!! You being here means a lot. ♥️
Hugs...tender hugs, lo e pats and opened ears, I feel your grief, shame and terrible sorrow.
None....I repeat NONE of which are your fault.
Know that you are not alone and ypur bravery on sharing the hard parts are encouraging to us.
Sending love and good wishes your way along with prayers, Di.
♥️♥️♥️♥️ Thank you so much, Di!!! I feel your tender presence and support and it means so very much. 🥹🙏
I read your posts that aren’t trying to be funny not because of your trauma. I’m not some trauma junkie. I read them because it feels good to see someone rising out of those ashes, somebody battered but unbeaten. Keep rising, kiddo.
Thank you so much Sam!!! 🙏 Means a lot. ♥️
Dear Megan, our terribly misguided parents grew up with walls and the only thing they knew to teach us to cope was to teach us to build walls. They did not know how to ‘communicate’ and could not teach us how. I grieve for you that your parents thought they could just give you a bigger wall (religion) in order to help you survive whatever would come your way. It never occurred to them that their walls ‘church, religion, God, etc’ would not help you cope but instead keep you from being able to cope. Recognizing the walls is a giant step for you. Tearing all of them down is much harder. You have made a valiant start. Many of us have walls to contend with but yours are much taller than most. I am amazed and impressed by your strength. In spite of the fear and shame you are the one who is now breaking the cycle. You are the one who your children will one day recognize as the person who saved them from that cycle. I believe our shame comes from recognizing our mistakes, but we ALL make mistakes and our mistakes seem bigger when the walls we must demolish are bigger. The other part of this is harder for us to acknowledge. Our triumphs are also bigger. Your triumph at this tragic stage may not be complete but it is none the less, HUGE! Congratulations on the steps you have taken. These first steps are the only way to start. Continue to share with us. We, your readers and admirers will continue to support you. You are a brave and powerful person with monumental task before you. Raise your daughters with love. Continue to talk with them even when it’s most difficult. Encourage them to be real and honest with you as you are also with them. Rejoice with them when the walls come down and grieve with them when the walls seem insurmountable. But keep on trying. Keep being honest, with them, with yourself and with us. You have done the hardest part in taking that first step. Now it’s a matter of putting one foot in front of the other. But as you do please let us, your readers, walk with you. The path in front of you is easier and smoother when we walk it together.
Love and best wishes to you as you set out on your journey. It really is worth all the pain you will endure.
Allan S.
"The path in front of you is easier and smoother when we walk it together."... chills. 🙏Thank you sooo very much for being here, and taking the time to leave all of this encouragement with me. It truly means so much! ♥️🙏
You have been through so much, too much. You are brave to tell your story. I'm surprised at the therapist's reaction. Sending you virtual hugs.
Thank you so much John! 🙏
🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Thank you soooo much Mps!!! 🫶
So many beautifully articulated comments here, yet I’ve sat with this for days and still can’t seem to find the right words...so I'm just going to say that I am, and continue to be absolutely in awe of you 🖤🖤🖤
All of the chills, thank you so much for your presence and support, it truly means so very much. 🥹♥️♥️♥️
I love how vulnerable and raw your writing is! I love the way you share. Virtual hug 🤍🤍
I loved your photo! I think it’s breath taking. How beautiful it will be to look back when you have gone through your healing journey!
I love therapy, it has helped me so much! I’m glad you are on a path to move forward! I’m cheering so loudly for you! 🤍🤍
Oh Amber, thank you so much! Receiving your virtual hug and support and beautiful energy through your comment is so uplifting. 🥹🥹🥹 I'm so happy and encouraged to hear that therapy has helped you! ♥️
I'm sending you the love and support you/we deserve to have and didn't from your bio Mom. So guess what? I'm your Mom now. Not THAT kind of Mom, but one who truly loves and supports and listens. You are so strong and so brave. It breaks my Mommy heart to know that you've been carrying this weight for so long.It's so heavy. Now that you're working in therapy, and you have others supporting you, let that weight shift off of your shoulders, even just a pound or two at a time. Gradually, you will come to know that it isn't all exclusively yours to carry. Love and big Mom hugs, Virg Oh and P.S. Fuck Shame
VIRG!!!! Your beautiful mom energy is giving me all the chills and heart soothing vibes right now. 😭♥️ "Now that you're working in therapy, and you have others supporting you, let that weight shift off of your shoulders, even just a pound or two at a time. Gradually, you will come to know that it isn't all exclusively yours to carry"... that is so beautiful, thank you so much for sharing and caring. I'm so blessed that you're here. ♥️
<3 Your story moved me (obviously). The blessings work both ways. You inspire me to be brave as well.
♥️ I love that so much. It’s such a beautiful exchange of inspiration! 🥹